5 lessons I learned about being a mom
Wow, I can’t believe it has been two months and two weeks
since I have been blessed with Lola Anylah Stegall (This gift from God has
given me wealth-is the meaning of her name). My birth was was as bad as every woman describes! Although
I wanted to try going natural, I ended up getting the epidural! (Don’t beat
yourself up if you can’t go natural, your child will probably never thank you
for having them natural and it doesn’t make you any less of a mom!) Motherhood
is a beautiful gift and I am delighted to share what I have learned so far. I
became a mother before a legal adult so as I am learning about motherhood I am
also learning more about life and my spirituality. In this post I will share 5
things I learned about being a mom.
1. The true meaning of being selfless
I always prayed for the characteristic of being selfless,
but now as a wife and mother it comes naturally. What I understand about being
selfless is putting your family first and always thinking about the wellbeing
of others. While doing this, I have to be careful to not forget about myself because
if I’m not at my best health I’m not able to fully do my job and help others. I
understand why God made women because we are the best at being selfless and we
are able to nurture others. I used to do
favors for others and sometimes want something back in return but now I perform
good deeds without seeking reward or praise. I am so thankful that I am able to
be more selfless and be a servant to others. I love serving my family because I
know they need me and although at times it may get overwhelming I just spend
time with God to fuel me back up and I’m good to go! I learned that no matter what position you
are in and whether you are a mother or not you will always be in a position to
serve someone else so even if you are baby free and not in a relationship make
sure that you are serving others!
2. Enjoy the season
that you are in
I understand what people mean when they say enjoy the season
that you are in. When I was single, I constantly thought about being in a
relationship and being a wife. While I was single I should have invested more
time in learning how to cook more dishes because now, although I am able to
cook yummy dishes for my family I am not at that Thanksgiving throwdown level of cooking lol. Sometimes I run out of ideas and Google “what
to cook for dinner that is easy and doesn’t take a long time” lol, yes I
literally type this in Google sometimes! I am amazed at how a woman can provide breakfast,
lunch, and dinner for their family. If you are single and reading this, whatever season you
are in, enjoy it and learn something from it because it is for a reason. You may be worried about having a bae but do you know how to cook? What are some characteristics that you need to work on? While you are in your season of no kids/single work on yourself and work on being a great future mom and wife. I don’t
regret anything on my journey because I am learning everyday as I grow! Right
now I am loving and embracing the season I am currently in. I am a college wife
and mom of a newborn baby that I love holding and cuddling with all of the
time! I know I will not always be able to hold Lola so I am enjoying these
moments and spending a lot of time with her before I get back to my regular
routine of going to class daily.
3. You can’t buy God’s love
A mother’s love for her child is just a
fraction derived from God’s love for man. Just like you can’t buy God’s love, there is
nothing that Lola can do to where I won’t love her anymore. I understand God’s
love for his children so much more! His love is not for sale and it can’t be
bought. If Lola is good or bad I won’t love her any more or less. She is my
daughter and I Iove her with everything in me. I also understand what God meant when he said
women would suffer pain during childbirth wasn’t only physically pain but pain
that their child is coming into a world that is filled with sin and the mother
has the pain of always worrying and not able to protect their child 24/7. As a
mother, you are always worried and you want the best for your child but you
have to put your faith in the Lord and know that he is the only one that is
able to watch over your child all of the time so it is important that you keep
your children covered in prayer
4. The role of women
As I mentioned earlier I respect women so much more now. I am
amazed at how a woman can be a mother, wife, business owner, employee, and
still maintain her sanity. I am my grandmother’s prayers and I want to be that
mother that my child comes to for comfort and advice. Women are able to
multitask and still accomplish everything they need to do for the day. We are definitely
needed in this world and God knew exactly what he was doing when he created a
woman from a man’s rib. Men and kids need women to be there for them. We are
one of the strongest creatures on Earth mentally. I am already praying for my daughter and my
grandchildren!
5. Time management
Last but not least, I have learned what it means to manage
time more. Before I had Lola, I was always pretty involved throughout high
school and college so I was pretty good with time management but it’s different
when you have to manage someone else’s time with yours as well! After having Lola
I am on time a lot more now because I don’t want to set an example of being
late all the time to her and I get ready faster. Running errands become
different when you have a baby but baby carriers are great to have while multitasking
as well. It’s okay to let the baby take over your life at first but once you
get in the groove of things, you need to multi task to get things done and care
for yourself. If you need to wash your
hair or cook, sit your baby in a rocker near you, turn on some music and do
what you need to do. Your baby may not be quiet all the time but it’s worth a
try! The key to managing time is being very realistic with yourself so you won’t
get overwhelmed or not accomplish your “to do” list for the day. Also, take
time out to chill and have fun but remember you have stuff to do so don’t get
comfortable. I took my classes online this semester (15 hours) and thank God I
was able to finish out with all A’s and one B. I would set a calendar of what
assignments I wanted to finish for the day and made sure I didn’t do anything
last minute. One time I had one hour to work on an assignment that I completely
forgot about and it wasn’t because I was busy, I just plain forgot about it and
had to breastfeed Lola at the same time while typing up the assignment but
thank God I was able to submit it and receive an A grade. There were times
where I had to read while breastfeeding Lola or type up a discussion post while
holding her! For the most part it wasn’t that bad but sometimes she would get
fussy and I would be on a tight deadline where I would have to get work done so
I would have her dad entertain her while I finished my work. I was thankful that I was able to take all of
my classes online, but next semester I will have to balance being in school,
actively involved with my major, and a wife and mother to Lola! With God on my
side I’m sure I can get through it although I know it will be challenging.
I hope you enjoyed reading about my journey as a mother thus
far. If you have any questions feel free to email me and if you would like for
me to blog about any other advice that I can give from experience feel free to
let me know!
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